Thursday 8 December 2011

Some Basic Things Explored

Not A Chub Porn Site

I've decided I don't want to post a whole load of gay chub and gay superchub porn on this blog. There are plenty of other blogs that do that. I will happily point those sites out, even, but this blog is about me.

Gaining: Exploring Why

What I want to do here is explore the whole phenomenon of gaining. I want to get to the bottom of why I'm doing it. That's really important to me.

I wish I were one of those people who is 100% confident of what they're doing and then just barrel ahead and do it. I'm not one of those. I am one of life's thinkers. I think about everything and I think everything through.

I just want to be sure that I'm doing the right thing for me. That's different from the right thing for a long life. The ultimate goal is the maximum amount of happiness, not necessarily living for the longest.

Which is telling, because I am implying there that I am gaining in order to increase my happiness.

I Want Support From Other Gay Gainers


Really, I don't want to feel quite so alone in doing this, I don't want to feel like quite such a freak. So I'm looking for support and communication and conversation with other adults who are doing this.

Companionship and sharing experiences is a good thing. I want to feel like I'm part of at least a little community.


Definitely Not Looking For "Encouragers"


I think that a lot of encouragement is somehow about power and domination. Therefore it's about sex. I've nothing against all that. But sex is between me and my husband who I love, so I'm not looking for internet flirtations of any kind. See companionship above.

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